Birthday Note

I celebrated my birthday yesterday by relaxing at home with my family. As kids are wont to do, my son, Colin, blew out the candle on the cake, so we had to light it twice.

Colin Joe getting reading to blow out the candle.

I snuck in a couple of wishes, but mostly I felt enormous gratitude for still being here for another day and another year.

The night before I reflected on my recovery from surgery and my birthday, journaling for a few minutes while standing near my bedroom dresser. I am not a habitual journal writer, but I have notebooks scattered throughout the house to be available when the urge strikes me. Often my journal entries—which I always convert to a long-running Word document—contain mundane facts and banal thoughts with no potential to become raw material for a poem, story, or essay. However, sometimes the act of moving my pen on paper will lead me to a line that initiates energy.

And this is what I came up with the other night. It’s not a great poem, but I was happy I wrote it in a spontaneous burst and finished it in one draft.

On the Eve of My Fifty-Fourth Birthday

There has to be more
to this life than
just what we see.

Or else there isn’t—
in which case
death won’t be
so scary.

It’ll just be a
harmless place
devoid of life.

And you and I
can handle that, right?

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Post-Surgery Update

I just wanted to give a quick update on my recovery. More than two weeks have passed since my brain surgery.

I had a follow-up appointment with my ENT surgeon yesterday. For the endoscopic debridement with suction, they stick a probe up your nose and suck out the junk, but I’ll spare you the gory, bloody details.

The last time I had this in-office procedure after the same transsphenoidal surgery in 2011, the surgeon maneuvered the probe too close to my brain stem and I suffered the worst headache of my life.

It felt like a gorilla had grabbed my head and shook my skull like a coconut—side to side and front to back—until my brain swished around and undulated on the waves of cerebral spinal fluid. I almost couldn’t drive myself home afterward.

Hence, I was anticipating a similar experience yesterday. But after Dr. A. performed the procedure, I had only a mild headache throughout the day and into the night.

He also saw no signs of a CSF leak, so I feel incredibly grateful. Although my right peripheral vision loss hasn’t improved yet, I am getting stronger every day and anticipate returning to work before the end of the month.

Thank you very much for the kind words and continued prayers—they are helping me!

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Sarah’s Hands

I just wanted to share that I recently had a micro fiction story published in “50 Give or Take,” daily stories of fifty words or less delivered via email and curated by Vine Leaves Press. The title is Sarah’s Hands.

Photo by Gülşah Aydoğan via Pexels.com.

Here’s the text:

Sarah woke up without her hands. They were gone—severed clean with a surgical instrument. No trace left behind, just a pool of blood seeping through the sheets. Don’t panic, she told herself. Stop the bleeding and call for help. But she couldn’t dial 9-1-1 without her hands.

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Book Giveaway

I am running a free Kindle book promotion for my self-published poetry collection Outward Arrangements. It starts today and runs through the end of the day on August 6. You can find the book here.

Outward Arrangements Cover

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Recovery Update

I never post pictures of myself, but I want to share this photo taken by my wife in our backyard. Eight days have passed since my brain surgery. I’m still a little wobbly, but I am getting stronger every day and trying not to strain myself.

Backyard photo. Credit: Pamela DiClemente.

I am also grateful for being able to soak up the sunshine—standing and breathing on my own. And I wish speedy recoveries for other people enduring health crises.

Thank you for your prayers and kind thoughts.

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Death of a Bonsai Plant

The little bonsai plant that I bought for my wife for Mother’s Day in 2021 has finally died. We took it with us when we moved from our apartment to our house late last year.

My bonsai tree. Photo by Francis DiClemente.

And sitting on the kitchen countertop, it bloomed a couple of flowers—which we considered a positive sign. But despite consistent watering and stints in the sun, the plant has turned dry and brown. And I know there’s nothing left to do but throw it in the trash.

Bonsai plant, summer 2023.

But one thought came to me while I studied its desiccated leaves and branches, which I’ll arrange into a little verse:

Just because
the bonsai plant died
doesn’t mean
it didn’t have
a good life.

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Post-Op Notes

Here’s a follow-up to my last post. It’s been less than a week since my surgery, so please excuse my scattered and fragmented thoughts.

A neurosurgery and ENT team at Upstate University Hospital removed a stubborn craniopharyngioma in a four-hour surgery earlier this week.

Upstate University Hospital (Photo by Francis DiClemente)

All test results and surgeons’ notes are posted to the MyChart patient portal, and I love the description of my surgery in ALL CAPS. It reads like poetry to me:

ENDONASAL ENDOSCOPIC TRANSSPHENOIDAL RESECTION OF TUMOR WITH NASAL SEPTAL FLAP

Before surgery, George, one of the neurosurgery residents, stepped into the pre-op room to get me to sign some consent forms. He scared the shit out of me when he ran through the complications—cerebral spinal fluid leak (CSF), bleeding, the need for a blood transfusion, stroke, and death. I thought, maybe I should just get out of bed, put on my clothes, leave the hospital, and let the tumor keep growing until it really messes up my vision.

But I overcame my fear and signed the consent forms. Then I met the anesthesia team, a nurse stuck me with a couple of IVs, and I was off to Fairyland.

I woke up in recovery feeling like only seconds had passed. The pain came in waves—going from zero to eight and centered around my forehead, above the bridge of my nose. I was given fentanyl and oxycodone, while a Foley catheter took care of my urine output.

The neuro team quizzed me: What’s your name? Do you know where you are? What year is it? At first, I said 2013, but then I added ten years to arrive at the correct year.

A parade of surgeons, residents, and interns entered my room in the hospital’s Neuroscience Intensive Care Unit, and someone told me they had encountered a CSF leak, but they patched it with cartilage from my nose. Dr. H., my primary neurosurgeon, said they scooped up most of the craniopharyngioma, but some calcium fragments adhered to structures and had to be left behind.

Craniopharyngioma example.

Lying in that hospital bed—humiliated from lack of privacy, with wires twisted around me, with my gown barely covering my naked body, tumid from the high dosage of corticosteroids—I felt like a wounded animal. After the surgical trauma, I now saw my body as simply an object—a machine that either functions or fails.

And I was now at the mercy of the fine nurses who treated me. I enjoyed my conversations with them, and most were serving as traveling nurses doing rotations at Upstate. And one side note: many of the nurses wore Hoka sneakers.

Because of my persistent headaches, I could not read, watch TV, or even look at my phone. With the wall clock ticking incessantly, I closed my eyes, prayed, and reflected on my life.

This was my sixth surgery if you count two Gamma Knife treatments. And since they didn’t get everything, I wondered, how soon will I be back? Will it be two, four, or ten years? How many surgeries will I need before death claims me?

But when I walked the floor on my second day after surgery, I passed other rooms with patients unresponsive and intubated, and deeper thoughts gave me solace. The words that kept coming to me were nothingness, fragility, and gratitude. I saw myself as a minuscule being with absolutely no control over my body or power to alter my existence. Death could come at any point. This is my fate and everyone’s fate. But I remained alive. I was still here.

And late in the afternoon, two days after surgery, I was discharged. While waiting to get a couple of prescriptions filled at the hospital pharmacy, I was wheeled to the Discharge Hospitality Center. Let me tell you, if you need to be in the hospital, that’s the place to go.

A nurse with blond hair, brown plastic-framed glasses, and wearing orange scrubs, greeted my wife Pam and me, asking us if we wanted a cup of coffee. “Sure,” we said. We enjoyed a cup of coffee and some Lorna Doone cookies while we waited, and I told the nurse that her room was a sanctuary.

Then, while waiting at the circular drive for Pam to pick me up, she asked me about my medical history. When I told her this was my sixth surgery, she expressed concern and said she was sorry I had such problems.

I said, “Yeah, but the thing is, you can’t change it, so you just deal with it. And every time I leave Upstate, I feel lucky that I can just walk and breathe.”

“Right, that’s true,” she said. “That’s a good way to look at it.”

At home, Pam told our autistic son Colin that “Daddy is sick and needs rest.” She put a note on our bedroom door—which has a lock—to remind him not to go inside. With his strong physical presence and his habit of jumping into our bed at night, we need to keep him away so he doesn’t whack me accidentally.

The post-op precautions include no nose blowing and drinking from straws. No straining or lifting more than five pounds. Sneeze with your mouth open and keep your head elevated at least thirty degrees. Pretty simple rules to follow.

I’ll keep you posted as my recovery progresses—slow healing, day by day.

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Tumor Talk

I am undergoing another brain surgery on Monday morning. This marks the fourth time since my craniopharyngioma (benign brain tumor on the pituitary gland) first appeared when I was fifteen years old.

Image by the National Cancer Institute.

My last blast of Gamma Knife radiation in 2020 kept the tumor away, but subsequent regrowth began affecting my vision in the past two years. Another round of radiation could not be performed because the tumor sits only a millimeter away from the optic nerve. My radiation oncologist gave me the grim news that radiation presented a twenty-five percent risk of blindness.

So a neurosurgeon and an ears, nose, and throat surgeon at Upstate will team up for a transsphenoidal approach—meaning they would go through the nose to access the tumor. I had the same surgery in 2011, followed by a rough recovery where I stayed locked in my room for about a month, suffering from excruciating headaches. I have added concerns now because in 2011 I was on my own; now I have my wife and son to think about.

Image by the National Cancer Institute.

Anyway, I want to present a piece of experimental writing inspired by my tumor. I think this falls under the essay category, but it could also be considered fiction.

Tumor Talk: A Conversation with My Craniopharyngioma

“I’m back, baby!”

I heard those words in my head after my radiation oncologist discussed the results of my latest MRI. Dr. L. said my craniopharyngioma—a benign, slow-growth tumor at the base of the brain near the pituitary gland—had grown over the last two years, causing my recent double vision.

Dr. L. said the proximity of the neoplasm to the optic nerve and blood vessels meant radiation was no longer an option. I would need surgery.

“You must be pretty proud of yourself, Fred,” I said to my tumor friend resting inside my head.

“Oh, come on, man, don’t be like that,” Fred said. “You know this was inevitable. Us craniopharyngiomas are like the cockroaches of the tumor world. You know no matter what you do, we always come back. You think that weak-ass radiation was gonna work on me?”

Yes, my tumor has a name. Since he’s been residing inside me for so long, I figured we should at least be on a first-name basis.

And Fred was right. There’s no denying his Terminator instincts for coming back. He’s like Buster Keaton in The General. He keeps barreling down the tracks no matter what you do to him.

Fred first appeared in 1984 as a large tumor engulfing my pituitary gland. His removal led to hypopituitarism and diabetes insipidus (a disease affecting water and sodium balance).

Despite surgeries in 1984, 1988, and 2011, plus two blasts of Gamma Knife radiation, Fred continued to aggregate the tumor vestiges, scooping up the fragments and wrangling them into a well-formed regiment. I gotta give him credit for its spunk and resiliency.

But after leaving the medical office and waiting at the bus stop, I wanted to set some ground rules with Fred, to see if I could talk him down or at least minimize his impact.

“Why are you doing this to me again? Life has been pretty stable with my family. Why do you have to make trouble for us now?”

“Come on, man, get real. Don’t give me those bullshit questions. Why anything? Why do you breathe or drink water? Why does a horse gallop, a deer prance, a cat meow, or a goat bleat? Do I need to go on? I’m a fucking brain tumor.”

“So what if you’re a tumor? Can’t you control yourself? Can’t you stop growing?”

“Now you just sound naïve. I can’t be something other than what I am. And I have a clear objective. As a tumor, my job is to expand and invade. That’s it. That’s why I’m here on this planet.”

What could I say? I couldn’t offer any retort.

“Look, don’t be so glum. You’re in good hands with your doctors, and our history shows we both come out alive.”

“Yeah, but I wish you’d agree to leave.”

“Well if it’s any consolation, I do like where I live. You’re a good host. Don’t get me wrong, I’d prefer to be inside the head of some brilliant mathematician or a swimsuit model reclining on a beach. No offense. Look, you’re not a bad guy. But let’s not get carried away. You’re no fucking Einstein or Dave Chappelle. And frankly, I get a little bored with your prosaic thoughts.”

“Tell me how you really feel.”

“Oh come on, man. I’m just busting your balls a little bit, trying to cheer you up. Which reminds me—I thought of a theme song for our relationship. Come on, sing it with me:

“In your head, in your head,
Zombie, zombie, zombie-ie-ie-ie …”

“Very funny.”

“Come on, man, don’t be like that. We need to learn to live together. Look, I haven’t caused irreparable damage. Your brain functions, memory, and language processing are all intact.”

“I suppose I should thank you for that. But with any luck, the neurosurgeon will go up through the nose and pluck you out.”

“Oh, why so adversarial? We’re just talking here.”

“You have your objective. And I have mine. You’re a squatter. A nuisance tenant who needs to be evicted.”

“Yeah, good luck. I adhere to things. You can’t just kick me out. I stick around. Been doing it for more than thirty-five years.

“Yes, you’re one tough foe.”

“But why do you have to think of me like that?”

“What do you mean?”

“Maybe I’m more friend than foe?”

“I don’t buy it.”

“Just hear me out. You wouldn’t be the man you are today if it weren’t for me.”

“How do you figure?”

“You’re pretty driven, ambitious, and disciplined, right?”

“Yeah, I suppose.”

“Well, if it weren’t for me, you wouldn’t have had to overcome those endocrine challenges—being the shortest guy in your class. I may have stunted your growth, but I gave you determination—a fire in the belly.”

“You know, I have to admit, I think you have a point. From the moment you came along, I felt like you were a ticking time bomb inside my head, and I had to strive to achieve something before you exploded and shattered my skull.”

“But, lucky for you, I’m not a bomb. And I’m not vicious, pernicious fucking glioblastoma. I’m just an aggravating nuisance, a little hangnail or a sliver under the skin. Think of me as a dented fender or a toilet that keeps running.”

“Well, I guess I should say, ‘thank you’ for that.”

“Don’t mention it.”

“Can we at least come to some agreement? Can you just stop growing and stay put for a while, until I have this surgery?”

“I don’t have that kind of control, kid. You give me too much credit. I don’t know where I’m going. I just keep moving.”

“Well listen, after Dr. H. does his transsphenoidal resection work, I’ll let you come back slowly, over the next ten years.”

“I hate to break it to you, but I don’t need your permission to inhabit some space inside your head. And let’s face it—we’re gonna be together for a long, long time. We’ll be two old, shriveled geezers playing shuffleboard in Clearwater. So let’s stay friends.”

I laughed. “I guess you’re right. I don’t know what else to say. See you later, Fred.”

“See you in the operating room, kid.”

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WSB Documentary Teaser

The 48th annual World Series of Bocce kicks off today at the Toccolana Club in my hometown of Rome, New York. In celebration of the opening of the tournament, I want to share a teaser for our indie, work-in-progress documentary that hopefully captures the history, spirit, intense competition, and community impact of the WSB.

My lifelong friend and co-producer Bill Vinci and I had talked for many years about doing a documentary on the WSB. And I’m excited because I can see the light at the end of the tunnel as I work with award-winning editor Mary Kasprzyk (my colleague at SU) to complete a project fraught with problems.

A little backstory. As producer/director, I received a Russo Brothers Italian American Film Forum production grant in April of 2020. A special “thank you” to the National Italian American Foundation (NIAF), the Italian Sons and Daughters of America (ISDA), the Russo Brothers, and AGBO.

However, COVID intervened, and the cancellation of the WSB in 2020 and 2021 prohibited us from capturing on-scene interviews and tournament B-roll footage. Then, after filming was completed at last year’s event, a post-production quagmire threatened to terminate the project. Now the doc is back on track and in the trusted hands of Mary K. We’re hoping to complete a roughly 15 to 20-minute documentary short before the end of the year. The working title is The World Series of Bocce: A Celebration of Sport, Family and Community.

Here are a few “producing” lessons I learned along the way. One: I know cloud storage is more reliable, but I still believe media should be backed up on multiple external hard drives stored in different locations. Transferring all the raw footage shot last summer to a $150 hard drive literally saved this project. Two: In working within tight budget constraints, you must accept your limitations—reconciling the disparity between the film you envision and the film you can actually produce. Three: the most valuable currency in indie film production is the relationships you make with your collaborators. There’s no substitute for working with people you know and trust and who are committed to their craft and the successful outcome of a project.

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Quintessential Listening: Poetry Online Radio

I just wanted to share the recording of the podcast Quintessential Listening: Poetry Online Radio, hosted by Dr. Michael Anthony Ingram. I was the guest on the show on Thursday, July 6. You can find the link here.

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